Comments on: You have cancer http://www.victimofcancer.com/2008/04/07/you-have-cancer/ Coping with cancer... one man's story Tue, 06 Jan 2009 02:29:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Andy http://www.victimofcancer.com/2008/04/07/you-have-cancer/#comment-7 Andy Sat, 12 Apr 2008 00:01:46 +0000 http://www.victimofcancer.com/2008/04/07/you-have-cancer/#comment-7 Hello Ben, its nice to hear from you. Thank you for your kind words about my father and I. I think that your idea on a better question is great... much more fitting. I cant wait to hear back from you, please next time fill us in on your experience and progress. in my thoughts andy Hello Ben, its nice to hear from you. Thank you for your kind words about my father and I. I think that your idea on a better question is great… much more fitting. I cant wait to hear back from you, please next time fill us in on your experience and progress.

in my thoughts

andy

]]> By: ben http://www.victimofcancer.com/2008/04/07/you-have-cancer/#comment-3 ben Wed, 09 Apr 2008 19:44:27 +0000 http://www.victimofcancer.com/2008/04/07/you-have-cancer/#comment-3 hi andy, thanks for finding and 'spamming' me ;) i wasn't sure which post i was going to comment on, they are all very well put. i understand every word of it, and reflects how i feel most of the time, although i have not experienced death with cancer. the bond you and your father have sounds remarkable, and a connection most strive for. he will be missed dearly. i also, feel much like you when others ask how i am feeling. i've pretty much given up. that question to me is more or less like a handshake. in a shake, i listen for the strength of the question, the firmness of the eye contact, and then how well their ears hold up afterwards. and then the advice i can't stand is 'make sure you take care of yourself, you need ben time'. no shit, really? thanks because i was spending all this time hiding away like a hermit. so maybe a better question is not to ask it in a form of a question, 'hey ben, i've been thinking about you lately.....' i will keep updated here as long as you continue to post. hi andy,
thanks for finding and ’spamming’ me ;)

i wasn’t sure which post i was going to comment on, they are all very well put. i understand every word of it, and reflects how i feel most of the time, although i have not experienced death with cancer. the bond you and your father have sounds remarkable, and a connection most strive for. he will be missed dearly.

i also, feel much like you when others ask how i am feeling. i’ve pretty much given up. that question to me is more or less like a handshake. in a shake, i listen for the strength of the question, the firmness of the eye contact, and then how well their ears hold up afterwards. and then the advice i can’t stand is ‘make sure you take care of yourself, you need ben time’. no shit, really? thanks because i was spending all this time hiding away like a hermit.

so maybe a better question is not to ask it in a form of a question, ‘hey ben, i’ve been thinking about you lately…..’

i will keep updated here as long as you continue to post.

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