A helpful tool
Here is a quick note to all those people reading this with out ever have known the experience that is cancer. Don’t ‘shh’ anyone willing to talk. That is key; the fact that somebody is willing to open this crevasse of their life to you is big. I only opened up to a select few, because I had been afraid of alienating or making my friends uncomfortable, which in turn would make me uncomfortable. Let me tell you though. It’s fine if you don’t know what to say. As a friend you are not there to say anything sometimes. In fact, I prefer just a person to talk to instead of bottling it all up inside of me, causing a ball of emotions stirring in me.
I went to one friend who would just allow me to cry, hug me and that’s it. Just the simple knowledge that I could open myself up with out fear of discomfort was very soothing. For me the best relationships are those where you can say anything you want to the other person, and the other person does not have to say anything
